Hi dear readers, I saw this post on net about 3 reasons why one should give his or her ex a second chance. It got me thinking...hummm. Does it really worth giving an ex a second chance?, we he or she change for good? it is really a hard decision to make especially if you really love and care for that person.. Anyway lets find out the three reasons why we should give our ex a second chance.
Read on......
lot can be said about the idea of getting back together with
an ex. Most of the time what is being said is with a negative tone.
I
can almost hear what my friends would say to me if they knew I was
thinking about getting back together with an ex of mine: "Once a
cheater-always a cheater." Or the popular, "Fool me once, shame on you.
Fool me twice, shame on me."
While it is great to have these
cliche quotes to remind us of potentially making a fatal mistake, I must
ask the question…When is it a good idea to get back together with an
ex?
As they say, the only two people to ever know what
really goes on in the relationship are the two people involved. You
usually tend to only hear your friend's side of the story or vice versa,
but it is rare that you will have both parties explain the reasons why
they ended. So you are left to give your opinions based on one side of
the story.
There are so many reasons why couples end their
relationship, but the bigger questions are raised when they both decide
to get back together. We have all been faced with that dilemma, whether
it is us doing the asking to get back together or the other way around.
You must always tread lightly for fear of repeating the past. This leads
me into a few good reasons as to WHY it is a good idea to give that ex a
second chance.
1. Desire - The desire to want to get
back together is needed. Of course it can be confusing if the ex
reappears or you have already healed and now those emotions are suddenly
back again. But whether or not things ended on a good or bad note, the
"desire" must be there. This is not to be confused with lust or any of
the sexual emotions but rather the desire to actually want to be with
that person again.
2. Acceptance - When bringing back an
ex into your life or trying to force yourself back into their lives, you
must first learn to accept some of the reasons why you broke up in the
first place. Accept the flaws that come with your partner and learn not
to use it against them ever again. By allowing that person back into
your life, you are also letting that person know that you accept
them…short comings and all.
3. Forgiveness - This is
probably the toughest thing to do in life. Forgive. Whatever the reasons
for breaking up is (infidelity, difference of opinion, long distance,
careers, just to name a few) when we forgive someone for their mistakes,
we have to learn to forget about the action as well. Of course, you
will never really ever forget but you can certainly forgive. Using
someone's mistakes against them is just as evil as the act itself. By
forgiving your partner, you are allowing them to start fresh and build a
relationship with you…for the second time.
ADVICE:::;
For whatever
the reasons are for getting back together with an ex might be. Please
give it plenty of time to think about the pros and cons, the reasons you
ended in the first place and if you really are willing to start fresh.
It is not an easy thing to do but then again, no one ever said that it
would be easy.
Tell me your take on this....
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